The Bible and Masturbation

The Bible and Masturbation

by Eric Pereira 3 Comments

He comes to this dark, forbidden but well-known place in the depths of the city. As he was nervously sitting in his car pondering what he was about to engage in, a woman approached him. Although this was not his first time his heart was racing as if it were. The palms of his hands glistened with moist and his voice would ever so often break as he spoke with her. His intention of sinning was in his heart long before he had arrived here. Enticed, they decided on a price. Twenty dollars. For twenty dollars, he was arrested. His wife demanded a divorce. His son and daughter insisted in never seeing him again. A few days later as this man was sobbing in tears, completely helpless and hopeless with suicidal thoughts running all over his mind he said that he should have stopped years ago. Not going to that despicable place, but he should have stopped masturbating. He explained that the desire to masturbate lead him to an addiction to pornography. Which in turned lead him to want to experiment and before he knew he was in handcuffs sitting in the back of a police car. Masturbation is Not Mentioned in The Bible – Lust is We’re going to through a few topics that cover masturbation followed by a quick poll at the end of the article. Please complete this poll to the best of your understanding, it is completely anonymous. If you have any questions or comments please comment below or send us an email at diveinscripture@gmail.com The Bible does not specifically say that masturbation is a sin. Some would say this means it is not, but the Bible does not list each and every sin. Instead, it gives us principles to live by, a moral code or ethical law and may give us listings of sins in general terms. For example, the Bible does not say, “thou shalt not smoke marijuana.” But most Christians understand principles that teach us we should not do so. The Bible doesn’t say, “—-“ and “—-“ are cuss words. But, we know that the Bible does teach us to watch what we say and that our speech comes from our hearts (Matthew 12:34). The same can be said concerning masturbation.

The proof of spiritual maturity is not how pure you are but awareness of your impurity. That very awareness opens the door to grace.   Philip Yancey

It does, of course, denounce all forms of sexual impurity and fantasies that would involve adulterous relationships whether actual or mental. The problem with masturbation is that it not only can become habit forming and addictive, but masturbation usually involves fantasy, visualization, experimentation and often pornography in order to reach a climax. The Bible is very clear as to what God expects of us in these areas of fantasy and lust. It teaches that we must not look lustfully at each other nor should we behave in such a manner as to entice others to lust after us (this speaks to sensuality on how we act and dress).
I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust upon a girl. I know full well that the Almighty God sends calamity on those who do. Job 31:1-3 (The Living Bible) You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28
While the above verses refer to men lusting after women, all women know that it can very easily be reversed to apply to them as well. Men may be more easily visually stimulated than women, but women can be just as vulnerable to sexual fantasy in the emotional realm. Both are sin in God’s eyes, and both can be brought into subjection by controlling our thoughts through Christ’s power. To be sure, it is clear from Scripture that illicit sexual fantasies are forbidden, and this is a significant issue with masturbation.
Matt 5:28-29 (NIV) [Jesus:] “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
But what if no illicit fantasies are included in masturbation? Is the act then sinful? By scripture, there is nothing to indicate that it is. To speak honestly what are the odds and chances, one is thinking about helping the poor, feeding the hungry or about the latest sports highlight while masturbating? One thing backs the other or inclines the person to act the other. I hope this is clear. Were it not for our perverted imaginations and lustful sense of expectation, it is our minds and hearts that need “treatment” and it needs to be fed heavenly things.

Either sin will keep you from the Word, or the Word will keep you from sin. ~ John Bunyan

God Created Sex Sex was God’s invention. He is the mastermind behind it—and His creation is worth far more to Him than it is to us. This beautiful expression of love was created out of His own heart, as a gift to be experienced between a husband and wife. It is only in marriage that this manifestation of intimacy can be fully enjoyed in the depth for which it was created. This means with love, commitment, and responsibility – which is the complete opposite of the culture’s common “one-night stand”.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4 (NIV) Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers, God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 (KJV).
The more beautiful and unique something is (like sexual intercourse), the more power it holds over our lives either for good or bad influence. That is why it is so easy for the devil to corrupt the most precious of God’s gifts. When we become more in love with the gifts than the One who endowed them, the things that were designed to bless us begin to destroy us instead. Yes, God cares about what we do with our bodies, in public or in private. He doesn’t want us to use or abuse ourselves in any bad way.
In fact, an older definition of masturbation is “self-abuse.” Although more modern dictionaries may no longer carry this definition, they are still linked together under self-abuse: Self-abuse, noun
  1. Abuse of oneself or one’s abilities.
  2. Masturbation.
To Masturbate or to Fornicate? The easy answer to this question would be, “Yes, it is better to masturbate because at best it corrupts only one person. It certainly is the lesser of two evils.” However, why would a loving, holy, all-powerful God abandon you to a situation in which you have to choose any evil whether it be “lesser” or “greater?” To really answer this question we must again go back to God’s original plan for sex.
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV)
First of all, masturbation will not truly relieve the sexual pressure that one may feel. It may for a short moment, but, in the long run, it only creates a deeper desire and capacity for sex, which will lead to more masturbation. If you let yourself become enslaved to a sexual high, you will find that you need to go to increasingly extreme acts to maintain the same degree of excitement. Once the brain creates those neurological pathways, those roads will become more and more traveled and leading to the start of an addiction. There are even ungodly sex therapists who recommend masturbation as a way of increasing sexual desire, not lessening it. This creates a vicious circle, like the junkie who craves a “fix,” but is only temporarily satisfied. The more he/she indulge in his dependency, the more ensnared by an addiction he becomes. This is the nature of all sin. That is why Jesus declared that all who sin become a slave to sin (John 8:34). 

By trying to grab fulfillment everywhere, we find it nowhere. – Elisabeth Elliot

 

Affair of the Mind All sexual immorality begins with a thought. A lustful thought not taken captive will eventually lead to other perversions because sin reproduces itself in increasingly greater measures. If we do not deal with our evil thoughts, they will take root in our hearts. It is for this reason that God is so concerned with our thought life. Jesus came not only to deliver us from our “outward” sins, but also from wickedness that begins in the heart. Since masturbation begins with sin in the mind, it might be called an “affair of the mind” because it brings about sexual sin inflicted against one’s own body. Although it brings a short-lived gratification, it makes one feel defiled when continued on a regular basis. In fact, it is a form of fornication because fornication is more than just sex with someone before marriage; it includes many other sexual sins such as pornography and the use of sexual toys for gratification. People who are not satisfied with God’s plan for sex commit idolatry by using evil things to experience taboo and unlawful forms of sexual intercourse. Some verses in Ezekiel actually describe this kind of fornication. But you trusted in and relied on your own beauty and were unfaithful to God and played the harlot [in idolatry] because of your renown, and you poured out your fornications upon anyone who passed by [as you worshiped the idols of every nation which prevailed over you] and your beauty was his. And you took some of your garments and made for yourself gaily decorated high places or shrines and played the harlot on them–things which should not come and that which should not take place. You did also take your fair jewels and beautiful vessels of My gold and My silver which I had given you and made for yourself images of men, and you played the harlot with them. Ezekiel 16:15-17 Why Did God Give Us Sex Drive Then? Isn’t God unreasonable to demand sexual purity after giving us sexual drives that seem to overwhelm us at times? Our loving God never demands from us what is impossible for us to do. We are so weak within ourselves that it may seem impossible, but He will equip us with His holy power to overcome any sin if we ask in faith. Of course, sexual urges in and of themselves are not wicked. Being tempted is not a sin, even Jesus was tempted. Sin is conceived when we experience and give in to the temptation. Urges are natural. God created us that way. He desires that we get optimum pleasure out of them, by using them the way they were created to be used. However, many desires for physical gratification (food, sex, etc.) stem from a deeper need that is unfilled deep inside us. Gorging our flesh can never fill a hunger that grows out of our spirit. Only intimacy with God can fill the deepest needs inside of us. No other created thing has that power. God is no more unreasonable than any caring parent who lovingly disciplines their child. It is only because He knows what is best for us. He sees a mighty potential in each one of us that far supersedes our wildest dreams, and He loves us enough to do all He can to bring it to pass. Thus, the urge for sex is not a bad thing when we aren’t enslaved by it. In fact, in marriage it is perfectly healthy to have the desire for your partner within biblical parameters. How Can I Live Without Masturbating? Although sex and sensuality are common in our culture, it should not be common amongst followers of Christ. This is the place where we need the empowerment of the Holy Spirit in our everyday lives. The Holy Spirit is not a vague “force,” but the very power of God to comfort you and strengthen you against the sins that used to rule you before you were born again. He is a friend. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we have the very ability that Jesus had to resist temptation. He depended completely upon the Father and so must we. Something you must know is that God is not the one who is tempting you in this area to “test” you. God is on your side and wants to set you free from these things, not lead you into them! “When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed” (James 1:13-14). If this is something you struggle with, please continue reading and we will make a few recommendations below and expose you to a few resources that could help your walk with Christ and set you free. What About Onan? The story of Onan in Genesis 38:9-10. Some interpret this passage as saying that “spilling your seed” on the ground is a sin. However, that is not precisely what the passage is saying. God condemned Onan not for “spilling his seed” but because Onan refused to fulfill his duty to provide an heir for his brother. The passage is not about masturbation, but rather about fulfilling a family duty. Consequences of Masturbation
  1. Psychic Effects. Masturbation has a tendency to isolate its captives psychologically and socially. In masturbation, the person is focused on self-alone even though he or she usually is fantasizing about someone else at the same time. Of course, this leads to addiction to both self-pleasure and in most cases pornography.
  2. Emotional Deprivation. It is impossible for the one who is practicing this habit to experience the full extent of sex without emotions. Therefore, in short-circuiting the emotions one can easily be removed from the world of reality. This can also bring a large toll morally on the person and a heavy sense of shame.
  3. Damaged Sensibility. The habit of masturbation has a tendency in numbing the mechanism of the sexual organs if practiced excessively. This lessens the sensibility and thus detracts from normal sexual relations of married life.
  4. Self-Gratification. The emotional background of self-gratification is not the least bit healthy and usually militates against the home, wife, and family because it is focused only on self. The Bible teaches us that the act of sex needs to be first and for most an act of love. Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church to the point of laying down His life for her, a completely selfless act, the opposite for self-gratification and masturbation.
  5. Control of the Mind. Along with the act of masturbation comes the fantasy of the mind. When practiced often, a pattern or cycle seems to become established within the individual’s mind. Thus, perversion has a tendency to control the mind and this in turn initiates the act. The real danger lies in the guilt that increases as the individual dwells in this world of fantasy.
  6. Long Term Consequences. The act of masturbation has an indescribable amount of consequences in the long run. Although at the moment it can seem fulfilling, one is cashing checks he/she can’t afford. This includes the toll of addiction and necessity to satisfy that at all cost. The bell curve for climax becomes altered thus one needs more and more to reach climax. When brought into marriage it can greatly burden the relationship in every aspect. For males most times, the habit of masturbating can lead to pre-mature ejaculation.
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. 1 Corinthians 10:13 For though we live in the world we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 In the same way count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master for you are not under law but under grace. Romans 6:11-14 For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:15-16 (KJV) Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God. 2 Corinthians 7:1 In (this) freedom, Christ has made us free—completely liberated us; stand fast then, and do not be hampered and held ensnared and submit again to a yoke of slavery—which you have once put off. Galatians 5:1 (AMP)
  So What Should I Do? If you are in a real struggle with any form of sexual sin, we do not believe it was by accident that God led you to this article. He wants to set you free, starting right now! We would like to share several things that you can do to break loose from this stronghold:
  1. Confess this sin first to God, then go to a committed Christian you trust, such as your pastor. Ask God to lead you to someone that you can be accountable with, who will be faithful to pray with you and for you. This will take humility on your part, but it will lead to life. James 5:16 says: “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” (You may not feel “righteous” but if you have admitted your sin to God and received His forgiveness, you are! That means your prayers are powerful and effective!)
  2. Flee from and reject anything that aggravates this sin. For example, you may need to get off the Internet for a season or purchase software that blocks out pornography. This may sound too drastic, but it certainly is mild compared to Jesus who said, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into Hell” (Matthew 5:30). His point was that we must be willing to part with anything that causes us to sin—even if it hurts temporarily.
  3. You may need to seek healing and deliverance from qualified Christians who are anointed in this area of ministry. If you have been deeply involved in sexual sins, the devil probably has a stronghold in that area of your life. If you can find some people who can help you stand against the devil, for he is the one who seeks to lead you into temptation and whispers lies of hopelessness and shame into your ears. If he drops a filthy thought into your mind just when you are trying to pray, (he has used this tactic on even the holiest saints of God) tell him to leave in the name of Jesus! Recognize his voice for what it is, and submit yourself to God. As you do this and resist the devil, he will flee from you! He is deathly afraid of those who are submitted to God in brokenness and humility.
  4. Don’t give up! Deliverance might take time. Self-control takes effort. You may slip occasionally—or even a lot. But remember that God loves you and He will be faithful to perfect His character in you as long as you keep submitting to Him. Eventually, you will win—and not because of your best efforts, but because of God’s mercy (Titus 3:5). Just as salvation is received in faith, so deliverance must be received in faith. This has nothing to do with our character, strength, or failings. The only thing it is dependent upon is you receiving it in humility. If you should fail, recognize it quickly; ask God to forgive you—and then receive His forgiveness! He is faithful to do that which He promised, not just in a select few mighty men and women of God, but in all who are willing to come humbly before Him. That includes you!
  5.  Carve new pathways. If you have a way to acting out sexually change it. Don’t go to that place, don’t visit that site, and don’t watch that show or read that book. If a thought comes to your mind carve a new pathway. So think about something spiritual, cite a bible verse or sing a song. It is important for you to do a daily devotional. I know a friend who runs a daily email devotional for men and women who deal with sexual addictions and brokenness. I’ll include his info below.



Eric Pereira
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3 Responses

rx_ruatsanga
rx_ruatsanga

September 04, 2018

Thank you!.

Johnson
Johnson

September 03, 2018

as it says …. i was not here by accident … i was acting ignorant of my acts … gods gave yet an other chance to confess my sins and come back to him … HIS GRACE IS ENOUGH FOR ME ….

Jemiah
Jemiah

April 08, 2017

This kind of blog is very helpful to young people❤❤❤❤,love it

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