Whenever I answer a question like this, I’m deeply aware that someone may be reading this who is seriously contemplating suicide—and I would do everything in my power to convince them not to take that final, drastic step. With Christ, there is always hope. If that’s you, please hear me. Don’t you dare do that! Jesus and I deeply love you and need you.
God loves us; He loves us so much that Jesus Christ was willing to die on the cross for our salvation. And others care about us, as well (even if we have a hard time believing it). Suicide is never God’s will, and even in the midst of life’s worst storms we can look to Christ and discover that He truly is “an anchor for the soul, firm and secure” (Hebrews 6:19). The first step back from the brink of suicide is to turn to Christ and open our hearts to Him.
Suicide is always a tragedy—but in itself, it is not the unpardonable sin. The only sin God cannot pardon is the sin of rejecting Him. God knows our hearts, and He also knows that mental illness sometimes clouds a person’s judgment so much that they aren’t fully responsible for their actions.
But that’s not always the case, and mental illnesses may not be a factor in that case you’re interjecting in your own destiny and, committing murder, against yourself also known as self-murder. The problem is, even that God forgives that one sin, more likely than not we can’t be a judge and say that person is going to heaven.
Even if God forgives them of that, a person at that point probably hasn’t been trusting Jesus or it would now have come to that. So If they even think the slightest that it’ll end their pain and they’ll go to heaven They’ll do it. It’s wise to be on the safe side and say the opposite if it’ll lean them off the edge, plus it’s one of those questions that are 50/50 but if a second chance is what I’m looking for I’ll never say they’re “cleared” to do it.
At the same time, ask God to help you be sensitive to the needs of others—especially someone who may be facing discouragement or depression. Often simply knowing that someone cares will help them turn the corner.
1 John 3:15: “Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.” Mark 13:13. Or Hebrews 3:14: “We have come to share in Christ, if indeed we hold our original confidence firm to the end.”
So the last question then becomes this: Can a Christian be so depressed and temporarily blinded to the hope of the gospel that he takes his life in a temporary moment of despair? And I think the answer to that is yes.
Now that is a judgment call on my part to say that seasons of darkness come and go in the Christian life. It is dangerous to say this, because we are all so easily deceived, and we should be terrified to try to meet Jesus by means of murder. That is a horrible choice. But between the terror that we should feel about that choice and the hopelessness for the victim of suicide, between those two I am waving a flag of hope that true faith can have a season that dark.
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Did you know that almost six out of ten teens leave the church at some point? Nearly 60% of high school students who grow up going to church will close the doors to a Christian life. And usually, they don't come back (survey by the Barna Group). "Because of people breaking the laws and sin being everywhere, the love in the hearts of many people will become cold." Matthew 24:12
(This post is written to Christian women and is based on a biblical worldview, supported with Scripture. Since the writing of this post, a sequel has been written, The Motive to Modesty.) Hurriedly I raked through my second dresser drawer in the dim light of the unlit closet, scrambling for pants of some kind. Finding some, I grabbed a workout shirt, jammed feet into tennis shoes and breathlessly answered the door for Mr. M. “Ready for breakfast?” he asked.