Divorce, The Wrong Side of God's Plan - Part 1
We have all seen and heard all over the news the Ashley Madison scandal. A website who's motto is "Life is short, have an affair" has become highly popularized in our generation, with over 40 million users (men and women). In the past few weeks, they were hacked. The "private" information of web users were exposed and many are calling it "black Friday for divorce lawyers".
This is only one website and one occasion that can ignite a domino effect and bring a home tumbling down. Infidelity and pornography have been a know out blow to many marriages, but there are many others. Read a story from a wife below.
Right after posting in my journal last night I got two texts from him. "I'm alone and feeling bad. Can you please come over just for a little bit. I'm feeling like I'm dying and I'm just scared.” I went over. He met me at the door and held me like he'd never let go. I asked him what was going on. He said his heart was racing, he felt like he would pass out. He was afraid to be alone. He said he was so sorry for what he'd said earlier. He said he knew I was right about the drinking.
Like this one, there are thousands of stories every year in the U.S., The fact is that about half of all marriages will end in divorce. Whether we like it or not, this behavior, action, or process, takes place in every level of society. We see it happen to the poor and rich, famous or anonymous, religious or non-religious. Every year about 876,000 couples get divorced. That means 876,000 thousand homes are broken, divided and separated. The percentages are shocking in each category. 41% of all first marriages, 60% of all second marriages and 73% of all third marriages end in divorce.
What’s the problem then? Is it the institution of marriage that has failed? Could it be how modern life works? Is it the devil that is breaking up families? Can it be that people are not made to be with just one spouse for the rest of their lives?
They say unto him, Why then did Moses command to give a bill of divorcement, and to put [her] away?￼He saith unto them, Moses for your hardness of heart suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it hath not been so. Mat. 19:7,8
For us to talk about divorce, it is imperative that we understand what marriage is. As I am sure that any Christian or anyone raised in a Judea-Christian Worldview, the idea of marriage is something that cannot break, voided or expired unless thru death, as the priests proclaim on wedding days! But nowadays something peculiar has happened in society that ideas like "until death separates us" or "thru sickness and hardships" are vastly being exchanged for, as the love endures, until we can meet each others needs, so on and so forth. Until we can satisfy each other in our own desires then we'll stay together. Scripture has an entirely different point of view.
“Therefore shall a man leaves his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 ASV
So we know what marriage is, but the question we want to know is, what needs to happen to allow me to get a divorce? Is it in any aspect right to even do it? The answer to that may sound a bit legalist to anyone enduring or attached to someone that is going thru that. So instead of bringing an answer that will make you feel even more rejected or desolated, let me assure you one thing.
There is always HOPE when you are fighting for LOVE because that is the Nature of the God and He created marriage for that reason, so we can complete in each other and live one another as we live to Him and love Him.
Many will follow up saying you got marriage too young, (if less than 25, you are more likely to get divorced). That it's already my second marriage (if it did not work the first time it's more likely to ended it up in a divorce). But none of those and honestly any other reasons are sufficient for you to stop fighting for what is God's master plan for mankind. Show His Glory and character thru a well and loving relationship between husband and wife, like Jesus And the church!
We aren't saying there are no difficulties or that it's a cake walk. In the next part let's talk more about the challenges and plagues that are ending relationships nowadays until then don't sign those papers.
There is HOPE, THERE IS JESUS!
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